Being an adult is very highly overrated

Grow up they said, being an adult is great they said, yeah right and I fell for it.

The worse part is I can remember saying I cant wait to be an adult, Just shows how dumb I was.

Society: Since the day we are born society has taken control of us, it depicts our lives, tells us how to live, what we are going to be when we grow up, teaches us how to act and how we are supposed to behave or rather should behave.

Basically, it lives our lives for us, Being a parent myself I raised three daughters on my own for 8 years, yeah that's right a guy raised girls, was it fun? some of it and some not so fun, but that is a whole other blog someday.

Parents want to raise their kids to be respectful, honest, raise them with morals and good values, raise them to respect themselves first and foremost, and then respect for others, their property, and their beliefs. Just like they teach us to be what we want or want to be.

But society steps in and tells what we are going to be and how we should act or rather how we will act. Parents talk a good game but in the end, they sub come to society, they follow society and let it tell them how we should raise our kids and what we should do when they act up, or how we should dress them, how we should take care of them, how we should discipline them, basically society runs our lives from the day we are born all the way until we meet our fate and God. The big book, AKA as the bible is the basic manual for all mankind and womenkind. It is the owner manual for humans, it tells us what the original father wanted us to do, how he wanted us to act, how to treat our brothers and sisters, how to love our neighbors, ourselves, and of course the father.

But what he did not count on happening was the group of people getting together in groups. Then 'BAM' Society was formed and people were allowed to decide their own rules, decide how they could live, how they think others should live, how people should act around other people and in their own homes. They decide how we raise our children, how we should discipline them, how we should prepare for their future, and prepare them for that future. If we don't follow society's rules or rather what society thinks we should do then the parents are outed, they are shunned, they are bad parents because they did not follow what society thought they should do. Society also decides how we should discipline our kids, what is the appropriate punishment, and the degree of punishment that should be given.

When I was a kid spanking was not child abuse, it was called t4eaching your kid manners and respect for the very same society that dictates the punishments (see the irony there). I fi had thrown a fit or a tantrum in a store because I did not get a toy I wanted, there was hell to pay, I would get my pants pulled down and my bare ass spanked good and hard. Did it turn me into a serial killer? No. Did I go off and shoot up a school? No. and why? because if I got a spanking for throwing a fit, the thought of what my mom would do for something as bad as that scared the hell out of me, I would have looked forward to the cops being called and arresting me because they would have saved me from my mom because she would have given me the death penalty right on the spot, she would beat me until I could not move, think, or function the rest of my life and why? because she taught me that doing bad things or doing wrong or disrespecting people was wrong and came with a punishment, the worse the wrong doing, the worse punishment was.

If I stole a candy bar from the store I was dead meat, the cops would show up to find what happened, the store clerk would tell them what happened if they asked where my mother was they would tell that "she was outside having a smoke". When they asked where the boy was they would point over to the cashout aisle and say "that's him laying on the ground over there". and there I would be laying on the ground trying to figure out how big the truck was that hit me and where it went and scared it might come back around for another run.

If I acted up in a store I got spanked, If I stole something I got my ass beat with a belt or wooden paddle, if it was sm]omething really bad, then I got my ass handed to me and then spent ten minutes laying on the ground trying to recover so I could get up. Did it teach me anything? Hell yes, you don't do bad things. Did I rebel and go off and shoot up schools? no, and why because I was trained that the bigger the wrong you had done, the nigger the punishment was going to be, and believe me my mom could come up with some very creative and stern punishments.

But all things that live grow, Animals, plants, trees, and humans grow. As they grow the world changes, so all living things have evolved and learned to adapt and change to the world as it changes, well so does society, it adapts and changes as the world changes, it grows and rearranges itself. When this happens people adapt to societies new ways, they look at the old ways and dismiss them as being "that's the old way of doing things, that is unacceptable", now we do things this way because society has changed.

My generation grew up and said "no more" I did not like being spanked or punished for being bad or doing wrong, we were just kids we did not know any better (Hence the reason you got punished, to teach you right from wrong DUH) but society changed because of that and adapted to the new generation, society said "No more! spanking is bad it is abusing your child, so stop if you do it we will lock you up and take your kids away! Why? for teaching them discipline? for teaching them right from wrong? teaching them respect for themselves and other people? For teaching them how to have good morals and giving them good values to build on and grow into a good person? Now we are watched how we treat our kids, they basically gave all kids the 'get out jail free card from the monopoly game', they can use it over and over again, anytime they do something wrong and you punish them, they can decide if they need to use it, and they will use it as many times as needed to get out of trouble. Honestly? kids nowadays have more rights than adults do and of course, society depicts what happens from there.

Well I say to hell with society, society does not rule me or decide how I will live my life or raise my kids or how I will act in public or even how my kids will act in public or how they grow up I do, Its my life, I am living it not society, if society wants to run my life or tell me how I should live, then society better start paying my bills, and taking care of me, because if you aren't paying my bills or taking care of me, then stay out of my life plain and simple.

It's the same with my kids and grandkids, society will not tell me how to raise them or what they should be or how to act, that is my job, and when my kids turned 18 and became legal adults they geo to decide all of that themselves and for their kids. (Well except for the grandkids, Papa can and will override mom when I feel the need to). This is what I have taught them to be, I have taught them to live their own life the way they want too not the way society says they have to live.

The world is and will always continue to grow and change, I see it as a big farm, a big sheep farm, the sheep stay in the fence and gather together and stay together, not letting anything divide them or separate them or how they act except for society, it is the sheepdog of the farm, he decides how they act and stay together he decides where they will stand together. if he wants he can separate them he can but will still keep them in a group only just a smaller group, he can do that all he wants, then he has several smaller groups but still a group in its self. But outside the fence stand the ones who can't be controlled by the dog( AKA society) they stand alone and do things how they want to do them, do what they feel is right, not what the dog says is right, but they will group together when the dog tries to get them to change into sheep and comply, they will stand together and fight to the death for their own ways of doing things and their own beliefs. The dog does not like this, so the wolves are shunned and put outside the fence so they can not get to the sheep to try and change them into free-thinking wolves so they can be free from society and its rules and live life the way they should be able to live their lives.

This post is simply my opinion and my opinion only, It was not written to offend anyone, if you feel differently or that I am wrong, well then that is your opinion and you are entitled to your own opinion, but that does not mean mine is wrong.

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Mark